Friday, June 25, 2010
Two Van Buren County Teens have been selected to attend the CADCA Midyear and the National Youth Leadership Initiative Experience. This event is being held in Phoenix, AZ, July 25-30th. Lydia Heald and Abby Rider were selected by a team of adult SAFE Coalition members who reviewed all applications submitted for the event. Their applications were rated highest and were given the honor of attending this year.
CADCA's NYLI Experience is built on the framework of the National Coalition Institute's National Coalition Academy. In these sessions, both youth and their adult advisors learn how to help community coalitions be more effective in producing community change. The NYLI Experience helps coalitions build their capacity to foster youth leadership in the design, implementation and evaluation of action strategies addressing community problems. In addition, this training builds the relationship between the youth leader and the adult coalition coach.
The participants learn about the Strategic Prevention Framework (SPF), logic models, strategic planning, developing interventions, advocating for change, evaluation, and sustainability. The NYLI Experience is a CADCA workforce development strategy that teaches what is required to create and nurture the growth of committed leaders and their work within coalitions. It better equips youth and adults to develop an action plan that clearly defines the strategies that young leaders will carry out to address the problems and goals that the coalition is striving to affect.
It is an honor to be selected to attend this event. The coalition only sends two Van Buren County students each year based on applications of the JEL/YLC members. These teens should be commended for their hard work and dedication to their community!
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
A recent study by Columbia University revealed that teenagers who have poor relationships with their fathers are 68 percent more likely to use drugs.
It also showed that 71 percent of teenagers said they had a very good relationship with their mothers, while only 58 percent said they had a very good relationship with their fathers. Additionally, more than twice as many teenagers found it easier to talk to mom rather than to dad about drugs.
If there is this strong of a connection between fathers, kids, and the rise in substance abuse by teens, what can men do to get back into their vital fatherhood role? RELATIONSHIPS!
All fathers must recognize that to keep children safe from drug addiction, they must take some risks to nurture relationships, before their kids become statistics.
Children come ready for relationships. They crave attention, love, and affection. What many fathers fail to realize is that this need doesn’t change as the child grows older. The only difference is the way a father expresses that attention, love, and affection. Teenagers act as if they don’t want or need their father’s attention. But that’s why it’s called acting. Fathers need to remember that although your teenagers may look like adults, they still lack the wisdom that comes from experienced fathers. They don’t always know what is best for them. But they won’t accept your guidance if there is no relationship.
Fathers everywhere should learn what it takes to develop and maintain a close relationship with their children. Below are some ways to begin:
Involved fathers tend to go out of their way to interact with their children. They give up some of their own activities that are important to them in order to give more time to their children.
Show you accept them
A father’s acceptance helps his children believe that dad will love them no matter what. It teaches them that they are loved for who they are rather than for what they do. When teenagers feel accepted by their fathers, they are more likely to share sensitive issues with them.
Shower your kids with affection
Express affections in different ways: loving words, small surprise gifts, appropriate touches that communicate volumes to a child (includes dads wrestling with boys). When a father shows affection to his child, he tells them they are worth loving.
That way children know what to expect and what they can count on.
Upon release, be available
Availability tells your children they are important. When fathers are not available it tells the child, “I love you, but other things still come ahead of you.”
Remember, it’s never too late! There are a lot of bridges that may need to be repaired, but if a father will remain committed and consistent, both father and child will be better for it in the end.
Information provided by USA Today, Randell Turner; Ph.D. For more information on building relationships you may contact the SAFE Coalition at 319-293-6412.